I made one mistake: I gave you referrals without talking to my auntie, since they left for a vacation.
One thing we always were praised as a host is cleanness.Being an open space and having granite and hardwood floors, it is easy to be maintained. My uncle is cleaning even when no one is there. This is why I have hard times believing the dust and garbage part.
You used the same information as everybody else, same maps that were provided to all, yet you are the first to have such angry difficulties to find the place. Sometimes anger causes you trouble, and not the other people?
My auntie is a little elderly lady, with strong character, very, again very helpful with kind souls, but doesn't take crap from anybody. If you are one of that guys, dominant and disrespectful to women, I assure you, my auntie was extremely kind and patient with you. Probably your rudeness towards her, got an unexpected reaction. This has more to do with your character (that is inside you), and not the outside world. On the other hand your wife is a kind soul that strive to undo your wrong doings. You are a lucky man in this regard.
After I talked to my auntie, I would strongly advice any other hosts to approach this guest with care.